FEAR of being alone is the #1 reason that people continuously choose the wrong people for their life.
After a few of my own personal experiences and observing A LOT (I have a tendency to do that), I have realized that people (not all people, but I will say more than half) tend to stay in relationships or get into them merely because they are AFRAID OF BEING ALONE.
And just because one person may be wrong for you, doesn't make that person a bad person. They will then find someone that's suitable for them. That, my friends, is called DATING.
It's. Not. Fun.
I'll be the first to say that I do get lonely from time to time. Heck, I bought a cat so I'd "feel" less lonely from time to time. But just because you "feel lonely" doesn't mean to bring people back into your life (from your past) or keeping the same people around that may not be good for your life. Whether it's a friendship or a relationship, it's always going to hurt to say goodbye. And everyone deals differently. I personally do not like dysfunction so when I'm done, I'm done. I don't like to bring people in and out of my life, like a game. I have zero interest in that. But some people would rather have that dysfunction than feel lonely. Not a good life choice.
I'm pretty sure I wear myself out saying this but here it is again. UNTIL you are content in God, you will not be able to be content in YOU. People (including myself when I'm being stubborn) don't truly try to be 100% obedient to God because of fear of reality (not having someone around) or a lack of faith. But in order for you to see any kind of outcome or if God will truly come through, you MUST be obedient to his Word and live your life that way. You can't pray once and continue to do what you've been doing and expect any sort of change.
YOU MUST MAKE CHANGES.
Look, let's be real. Let's say that you're in a 5 year relationship and for whatever reasons, it's simply not going to work and both persons know this. YET, they continue to stay together because that's just what they've known for the past 5 years. And now you have to start over. And that very thought alone makes no one want to do any kind of movement but stay where they are at. And it makes it EVEN HARDER when you live with someone. I'm old school with a few things such as not wanting to live with someone until I get married. That's one thing I stand firm on.
ANYWAYS, my point is that decisions involving other people will always be difficult. Feelings will be hurt. One person will be more hurt and even angrier than the other. People are DIFFERENT. You can't tell someone how to react or feel. It really just is what it is.
BUT, I will say that we do have the CHOICE to be civil and as kind as you can be. Sometimes people make it difficult for the other person to be nice but you do what you can. The situation will unfold how it should, in time.
TIMING is KEY.
STOP trying to make everything happen on YOUR time and TRUST IN GOD.
He will provide, in his timing.
OBEDIENCE and DISCIPLINE are key.
Don't let fear determine your life . . .
(You always have choices. Some are easy and some are hard. But you always always have options. It's just a matter of YOU CHOOSING life or to be stuck. But it's always a choice and it's YOUR choice only.)
LiVe. LiFe. OuT. LoUd.