There's a world out there that we should see.

LIVE. LIFE. OUT. LOUD.

Saturday, February 23, 2013

LET'S GET MARRIED ! !

Today's society?

People get married SO FAST. 
It's like, "Oh, we have the same cereal in common, let's get married"!!

I like cereal one day and can't stand it the next SO if I based decisions off things like that, I'd be in BIG trouble. Plus, I really don't even like cereal at all! 

I just got completely sidetracked talking about cereal when what I'm trying to talk about is how today's society has to label EVERYTHING and so quickly.

I've observed that people seem to think finding someone will make them happy.
People feel insecure.
People feel lonely.
People feel undeserving.
People feel scared.
. . . notice that all of those statements have the word "feel" in every single one of them. People need to learn how to have their feelings as opposed to their feelings having them.

People need to feel less and think more.

If you're content with YOU then you won't feel the need to fill any void because there won't be a void to fill ! When I tell people, "DO YOU," I'm saying it because when you know YOURSELF, that allows you to know yourself with someone else involved.

That's why people say, "You find love when you're not looking or least expect it."
When you're living your life, and not constantly searching for someone or something, life happens.

Let life happen to you instead of you trying to make life happen.
It will come . . . 

APOLOGIES

Apologies can change lives.
Sometimes in the best way and sometimes in the worst way.
You're probably thinking how on earth can an apology have a negative impact?
Well, when apologies are misused and abused, they are empty words.

I honestly can't recall if people have apologized to me about something because I didn't hear it. 
It's not that they didn't say it but because they do it over and over, you don't hear it.
It's like that annoying humming sound in the house that you're frantically trying to find to make it stop.

Apologies also become excuses to excuse our habitual behavior. It's like people get used to doing and/or saying something and following it up with an "I'm sorry" right after. An "I'm sorry" in that sense, simply means nothing. It actually upsets someone more.

Sometimes it really is too late to apologize.
Because at the end of the day, if you didn't mean it, you wouldn't have done and/or said it.


Saturday, February 16, 2013

THE COLOR RUN - VEGAS 2013

FEBRUARY 16, 2013
Las Vegas, NV

It was very convenient that our packet pick up was inside The Palms :)




I had been waiting and waiting for this color run!! 
I saw it online when I first moved here, last year, and missed it so I made sure that I did it the next time it came around.

I love these socks.

It was extremely early. 
Probably around 6am that this picture was taken. I couldn't fall asleep until 1am and then woke up at 2:30am sooo I was pretty tired BUT suuuuuper excited!

Sara, Melissa and I got to downtown around 7am. 
The race started at 8:30am and we wanted to be sure we could find parking, etc. 


I love downtown!


 I look Asian when I'm tired and I almost got this girl from work to believe I was part Asian. 
PS - Whatever material these color run shirts are made out of, is SOO soft and silky smooth.

 I was putting tattoos on my cheeks.
I wasn't crying. 
I only cry when I read books or watch movies. 
Nerd alert!

I got a packet of purple color, when I picked up my packet, and I didn't even have to ask for that color.
I LOVE PURPLE . . . it's my favorite.

AND as we were waiting in line to run, this feminine man asks: 
Feminine man: "Can I trade you my pink color for your purple"? 
Me: "No, purple is my favorite color".

PS - Don't automatically assume that because I'm a girl, I like pink.

My only concern was the fact that I did a leg workout on Tuesday, had practice on Wednesday (and got beat up, literally) and my legs were just done for. I could barely move on Thursday so I just stretched. The minute we started running, shin splints took over. I ran the entire time (waiting to cross the finish line) but at a slower pace. 

I did, however, dance just fine at the end, in front of the stage. I was there for a good 20 minutes. I caught a random bag they were throwing into the crowd. We threw more color. Danced A LOT. It was one of my most favorite dance parties.



The host man that was talking on the mic before the race started, was the guy that checked me in at registration (the day before at the palms) and he recognized me and yelled, "Team Palms" as we ran through . . . that was pretty awesome.

TEAM PALMS


FAST FORWARD 
(to after the race)

I was a little sad that I didn't bring my phone on the run BUT I did not want to carry it as I ran. We had to carry our packet of color in our hand (which was nice since it was like a stress reliever) and that was enough.

 Don't ask me how I got color in my mouth. 
I even kept my head down as I ran through the color zones.

 Aphrodite (my car) and I go hard.
(Classic jail pose. Not that I've been in jail but I'd have to imagine that I attempt to do this pose.)

BOOM SHAKA LAKA LAKA LAKA
(I really did sing that as the picture was being taken)

Like Whoa! 
Haha . . . but seriously, Greek girls got back too!

I stole these sunglasses at the end of the race. I'm not proud of it but it happened.
 My neck looks like my real color.
 So much purple!



Sara decided to dump her pink color just as I was running past her and half of the bag got into my ear.

I didn't want to take an ice bath but it was so very necessary.
Not from the color run, but from practice last Wednesday. 
I got hit so many times, landed on and bruises everywhere.
Welcome to Football!


 Saying that you're taking an ice bath is VERY different from actually doing it. The second I put my foot in the water, I quickly regretted this entire decision. 
15 minutes!

 I'm pretty sure that when you put a Q-tip in your ear, it should NOT look like this. 
(see picture below)

I would highly recommend this run for ANYONE.
It's 3 miles, you can walk or run. 
It's COLORFUL!

I don't know that I'd do it again (I'm almost extremely tired at the moment though) but the color is kinda hard to get off of your skin. Not bad but just a little annoying. Who am I kidding? I'd do the race again just to get to the DANCE PARTY at the end!!

Live. Life. Out. Loud.


Tuesday, February 12, 2013

PINK & RIHANNA latest hits

SUPER cute video. Very cute couple.


Just give me a reason
Just a little bit's enough
Just a second we're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again
It's in the stars
It's been written in the scars on our hearts
That we're not broken just bent
And we can learn to love again





Wish I could see her at Mandalay Bay but she been sold out :(


Not really sure how to feel about it
Somethin in the way you move
Makes me feel like I can't live without you
It takes me all the way
And I want you to stay


Tuesday, February 5, 2013

LIFE IS FUN !

I promise that life is not supposed to be as difficult as we make it.
And by "we" I mean ALL PEOPLE.

We always always have a choice and we can choose to be positive or negative.

There are things in life that we are not in control of and things that we are born into. BUT we still have choices to make. We can choose to be a follower or a leader. If something, in your family, hasn't been done before THEN YOU BE THE FIRST TO DO IT
Be the example.

And don't be that person with the thinking of, "Everything is going so great in my life that something has to go wrong." No it doesn't. Life isn't supposed to be dreadful. 
Sure, there will be things out of our control and things that happen to us and/or people we care about BUT it's all about how we choose to deal with it. 

CHOOSE to be selfless. 

It does not come naturally (perhaps for some but not most) and we consciously have to remind ourselves to do so, not just in how we act but how we speak
(I write these posts as a reminder for me too!)
Some things come natural for us and not others (and vice versa) and some things simply do not such as loving people. We don't automatically just love EVERYONE. Jesus does and we want to be more like Him. Heck, sometimes it's easier to love complete strangers than our own family! 
It's a challenge and a challenge I know that I'm willing to accept in order to better myself in Christ. 
Again. . . it comes down to a choice.

And it feels SO good to help other people. I just confused myself in typing that because does that make it selfish? Because I get enjoyment out of helping others? HAHA Either way, it's good to help others. There will always be people in need and people with way too much money.
You know how you fit in so simply do your part and what you feel that God puts on your heart.

Don't believe and/or listen to people that tell you that you're too young, and haven't experienced enough, to give advice or know about something. And don't disregard older people because you assume that they don't understand our generation, can't relate and that their advice won't apply to us now. Turn off that close mindedness. NOW. 

Young or old, old or young . . . we call ALL learn from EACH OTHER.



Look forward to life.
Love your life.

Live. Life. Out. Loud.


"We often expect maturity to come with age, but the truth is, sometimes age comes alone." 
-- John C. Maxwell



Monday, February 4, 2013

INVEST IN WHAT LASTS

Instead of buying ANOTHER pair of shoes (that you don't need), why not invest in YOU?

Become a well rounded individual. 

If you don't speak another language, learn another language.
If you haven't traveled outside of your state, go somewhere else.
If you don't know much about other cultures, read and talk to people.
If you don't have a savings, start saving!
READ. Reading opens up our minds. Fiction is good to get out of reality (I like to get away from time to time) but also leadership books, motivational, self help, biographies. SO much to learn by reading. The best book, that you can read over and over, and learn something new every single time: The Bible.

Often, we just get distracted easily. I know that I do. 

It's like the more and more I tell myself I'm not going to do something, I HAVE to do it. 
As if I'm a two year old! 
. . . Don't be that person. Be disciplined. 

I can be either two extremes when it comes to shopping: I go in, know what I want, buy it and leave. But then there are other times where I look at things (that I know I don't need) and walk away. 
I'm an "out of sight, out of mind" kind of person.
If I can't have something (when I want it), I won't look or go near it so it stays out of my mind. This doesn't have to be just about shopping but I mean about life. If I can't travel for a few months, I don't entertain thoughts of going places or look at flights or at hotels. I just keep it out of my mind until I know that I can go again.

CHOOSE to educate yourself. 

Just because you're not in school and in a classroom setting does not mean that you can't learn. 
It's a little more challenging because no one is "forcing" you too...but YOU should be forcing YOU.

CHOOSE TO BE BETTER.
Don't be mediocre. Be extraordinary.

MY FAVORITE CHRISTMAS MOVIES

I just got home after working 9 days straight, the day after I flew in from Seattle, so it's my Friday and guess what's on TV??!!

THE HOLIDAY!!

So I felt compelled to share with everyone my favorite Christmas movies.
(not in any order)

The Holiday
(I'm such a sucker for romantic films. You'd never think it.)

Favorite scene


I'm torn between The Holiday and Love Actually being my favorite movies. Probably Love Actually. No! The Holiday. No! Love Actually....ahh, I just love them equally.

Love Actually
(Colin is my favorite Character. I love how out of the entire US, he chooses Milwaukee, WI to find babes.)

Favorite scene

(I'll save you time now, most of my favorite scenes involve dancing)

Four Christmases
(Any movie with Vince Vaughn is highly entertaining)

Favorite scene

(I laugh OUT LOUD every time I hear Vince Vaughn say Merry Christmas in Burmese)


The Family Stone



National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation



The Santa Clause


I'll be home for Christmas


A Christmas Story


I just love Christmas time! I'm sure I like tons more Christmas movies but these I could watch repeatedly and not get bored.

Sunday, February 3, 2013

DOES COURTSHIP STILL EXIST?

The title of the article is called: The end of courtship?
(Click on this link below)

Once you've read this article (by clicking the link above), I'd like to share my opinion and view.

I've said it before and I'll say it again . . . social media has made people socially inept. People cannot share their feelings so they hide behind a computer screen. People can't confront anyone because they don't like confrontation or don't want to hurt someone's feelings so they rely on social media. We can make a million excuses to justify why we texted, emailed or wrote someone something as opposed to waiting until they were face to face or on the phone. And it all comes down to one reason. . . people are SCARED. FEAR.

Communication is not texting.
Communication is not messaging.
Communication is not emailing.
Communication is talking in person or on the phone.

And there are SO MANY ways to interact, for free, on skype (and several other similar outlets) to see each other when you're not able to be face to face. FACE TIME! (Don't act like you don't own an iphone! . . . and if you don't, upgrade) Speaking of the iphone, that's when I fell into the "social media trap" of texting. It's convenient. It's fast. And my generation is brought up of getting/doing everything NOW. Waiting takes a back seat. It's not a good thing AT ALL.

And I'm most certainly guilty of falling into the trap of texting someone to cancel plans or whatever else. Texting/emailing someone as opposed to taking the time to call and/or leave a voice message is straight up disrespectful. It's literally saying that you're not important enough for a proper explanation. That you don't deserve anything more than a text or even worse, when someone just cuts you out and stops talking to you completely. That's when you really feel like garbage.
BUT you survive, you learn and you move on.

And what happened to calling and planning dates?? Picking someone up instead of meeting up? Not looking at your phone for your entire date? Sending flowers just as a "thinking of you" kinda thing? Writing a letter or note?
Call me old school but bring back actually calling and leaving a voicemail. NO ONE likes to leave messages these days.
If this is what I have to look forward to "to date", I will be just fine, and more than happy, to remain solo forever and I will stand firm on that.

Fun, reading challenge (for women, sorry men):


I'm a part of this group on facebook called "SistersEVOLVE" --> http://www.facebook.com/groups/SistersEvolve/
and it's about Christian women becoming better --> TOGETHER.
I haven't met anyone, in person, from the group yet since a lot of their events are on weekends and we all know I'll never have weekends off. Anyways, I saw that they were starting a reading challenge for single women and married women.
All of the single ladies (don't start singing Beyonce because I just did) will read, "The Sacred Search" by Gary Thomas and all married women will read, "Sacred Marriage" by Gary Thomas. It's not hard. You just have to read one chapter a week and do the couple of questions at the end of the chapter. Keep a journal, answer the questions and post on the website:
https://www.facebook.com/notes/sisters-evolve-connecting-christian-women/the-sacred-study-for-se-singles-wives/486752504715088

You do have to be a member on the SE (sistersevolve) group before participating in the reading challenge. The more the merrier, let me know if you're interested and/or have any questions.

There is also a purity pledge that follows:
https://www.facebook.com/notes/sisters-evolve-connecting-christian-women/sacred-singles-purity-pledge/491863014204037

I honestly just glanced at the topic of the challenge and clicked out of the link, not planning on participating. Then I thought, whatever my "feelings" and/or "views" on relationships are, it needs improving SO I ordered the book online and read the first chapter today actually and didn't want to put the book down.

Currently, this is my take on marriage.
It's not a desire of mine to have kids or get married but should the right guy come around, I wouldn't be opposed to it. I've never dreamed of being a mom, as most women will admit. So, if I have kids and get married, cool but if I don't, that's cool too.
I also think it's because I'm content in God that I don't "need" a relationship or a man. I'm all about building up strong, independent women. BUT don't misconstrue that with thinking I'm saying we don't need men. Well . . . we don't (and shouldn't) "need" a man. I say,  "I want a man", not "I need a man." And, really, it's not about US at all. It's about GOD. If God wants us to be married, he will plant that person in our lives whether we really "want" to be married or not. So I've got to change my attitude and say, "Lord, I pray that your will be done and that my heart and ears are open and welcoming to your plan."
I don't want to miss out on God and I don't want to miss out on sharing God with others.

My theory is this, if I work alone better (for now) with ministry, my career and building God's kingdom then solo it is. Should God put someone in my life that would be a great partner and we do these things for God, together . . . even better. In my opinion, anyone is better off alone than having bad seeds or toxic people in their lives. (Whether that be family, friends and b/f's or g/f's)

Marriage is a HUGE commitment. People who don't plan on marrying, really shouldn't be dating. What does dating lead to? Regardless of how people put it or say their situation is different, either the guy or girl will fall and want more. It's inevitable.

My top two reasons why I don't date:

1) Everyone else is crazy.
2) I'm not sure that I want to be married.

I turn down dates merely because I'm not so sure that I want to get married. And I don't hook up so there's no point for me to date at this point in my life. I have plenty of friends, most of which are male (just because I've always gotten along better with males over females). Now, of course, I may change my views and want to get married in the future but I'm talking about where I'm at currently (mostly so I can look back on this), it'll be fun.

I will be honest and say that there's only one person (in my life) that I've ever considered to want to date and have in my life in the future but the timing is just off for now. I'm a very passionate person and an all or nothing type of lady. I'm either in or I'm out. When I care about someone, I care hard. 
If it's meant to be, it will be. If not, it won't.

I'm hoping this actually opens people to commenting on here and having discussions. Ask questions, give opinions. . . it'll be an adventure!

It's not about what WE want, it's about God's plan and what HE wants.
Once you can wrap your head and heart around that, everything else just follows.