There's a world out there that we should see.

LIVE. LIFE. OUT. LOUD.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

MY READING GLASSES

I'm a book lover.
I love to read.
I love stories.
READ. READ. READ.

(Meet Denise, my old lady alter ego)

"Well, how the heck do I turn this laptop camera on again…"

"There we go!"

 "Hello social network world!"

"I just can't seem to remember where I left off the last time I was reading here…"

"Oh no! That was the last chapter and I forgot how scary that part was!"

"Oh stop it, I was just kidding…there aren't any scary parts in this book!"

"No no, wait…."

"I'm confused what book I'm reading again?"

"I keep getting distracted looking at my stand up mirror, thinking about having a dance party"

"Am I still on camera? I can never tell with this darn computer"

"Back to the book…."

"So good"

 "Just such a good book, I'm trying to be in the story by getting closer to the pages"

 "And now I've officially decided to have a dance party because I'm too distracted"

Reading time is over!

"THE BIG PICTURE"


Ultimately, everything we do should be for the Lord. 
God wants to give us the desires of our heart. 
My passion is the Hotel Industry and traveling. I'm working as an Assistant Hotel Manager in Las Vegas (the top place in the world for hospitality) AND I get to travel whenever I want. 
WHAT A BLESSING!

There's nothing wrong with doing what you love. 
But don't forget to thank God for all he blesses you with. I wake up thanking him for my life and all these things that I'm privileged to have but don't necessarily need. I don't "need" an iphone, I don't "need" an ipad, "I don't "need" to travel BUT I'm blessed to be able to have and/or do these things. There's no reason to feel guilty of it. 

Not many people end up living the life they really want to because of several different things. Some people get married too fast, have kids too fast, tend to others before tending to themselves and then they feel as if it's "too late" to do what they really want. They feel as if they're too old or too much time has gone by. 
It is never too late. If you think it is and you don't have faith that things can change, then they won't. 
Life is truly what we make it with the choices/decisions we make.
WE either make life difficult or easy with our own choices. 
(no one else to blame but ourselves)

Have a little faith.

Imprint this on your heart: God wants to give you the desires of your heart


Take 1: 
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Take 2:
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Take 3:
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GRACE THROUGH FAITH

It is critical to understand that we cannot save ourselves. The foundation of our faith is Jesus' death and resurrection. That's what paid the penalty for our sins. As a result of God's work in Jesus, we are a new people with a new heart and a new Lord.

1.    Is it possible to be saved by the good things we do -- our "works"? How are we saved? 
       Ephesians 2:8-9 -- No, we are saved by God's grace. It's a gift. "God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can't take credit for this; it's a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it."

2.    Does God save us because of the good things we do? If not, why does he save us? Titus 3:4-5
       -- No, he saved us out of his kindness and love. "When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit."

3. What does God's grace teach the believer? Titus 2:11-12 -- Turn from Godless living and sinful pleasures through the grace of God. He brought salvation to all people. "For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures."

4.    Shall we continue to sin because of God's forgiveness and grace? Romans 6:15 -- "Well then, since God's grace has set us free from the law, does that mean we can go on sinning? Of course not!"

5.    What are we created for as new Christians? Ephesians 2:10 -- "For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago."

6.    What did Jesus say to those who believed in him? Matthew 16:24 -- "Then Jesus said to his disciples, If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross, and follow me."

We learned that we are spiritually dead and cannot save ourselves. Regardless of who we are, we need a Savior. Jesus Christ is the only true Savior. By receiving Jesus as Savior and Lord, we can be delivered from the power of sin and its consequences. Our salvation is based on what Jesus did for us, not on our own efforts.

We must therefore…Realize that we are sinners without excuse (Romans 1:20) and that it is only through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ that we can be saved. Respond by turning from sin and putting our faith in him and then following him as Lord.

Candace Cameron Bure (DJ Tanner from Full House) has a great testimony and even speaks all over the world about how "Being good isn't good enough" meaning that we need Jesus Christ as our Savior and simply "being a good person" isn't going to get you into Heaven.


(The Purple Book by Rice Broocks and Steve Murrell - Chapter 1 - Lesson 5 - P.19)

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

YOU DON'T KNOW ME

People like to think they know someone.
I'm guilty of it.

No one REALLY knows anyone completely.
Parents or siblings know all the stuff that irritates us, makes us happy, things that comfort us, our younger years growing up…etc but that doesn't mean they know you.

For example, just because people know that I'm quick to let go of people that bring drama into my life, doesn't mean they know me inside and out. Sure, I rarely have any chaos in my life because I don't have any tolerance for it. You've got some people that say, "Oh I hate drama" yet drama is all that surrounds them. It's because they attract it and feed off of it.

Me? I can't do it and won't do it. If I meet someone new and I'm just getting to know them but quickly realize they have drama-like tendencies, I stop associating with them. It's really that simple. It's not being mean. I just know what I want and know the kind of people that I want and don't want in my life so my decisions are actually extremely easy.

Some people feel the need to attempt to be everyone's friend or have people like them.
I don't want people to dislike me but I'm not going to get bent out of shape if someone doesn't like me because everyone does not like everyone. We'd have world peace if that were the case.

People are very quick to make assumptions and/or judgements. Again, I'm guilty of this as well but I'm more conscious of it now so I stop myself mid-thought. I'd like to give anyone a chance and if we're only thinking negatively, we'll only see the negative. People also like to gossip and believe whatever makes the better story. Even if the people who are gossiping, find out the truth…they'll continue to spread whichever makes the better story. And the people gossiping are normally the ones unhappy with their lives and/or decisions (there I go stereotyping - haha) and have nothing better to do than bring someone else down to make themselves feel better. (JUST SAYIN')

Before making judgements or deciding something about someone else, allow yourself a minute to learn about that person. I won't judge what I think about someone until I've taken time to meet them and interact with them before making my own observations. (Until you've done your research…some friendly advice, keep your mouth shut)


Only a fool utters his whole mind - Proverbs 29:11


No one is perfect therefore no one has the right to judge.
(You can of course, but you'll always always end up looking very stupid - real talk)


Mr. Know It All - Kelly Clarkson


YOU DON'T KNOW ME AND I DON'T KNOW YOU
(You may think you know it all…but you don't)

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

PEOPLE PLEASER?

Lesson 1: You cannot please everyone.
Lesson 2: People WILL dislike you 
(in other words, you won't like everyone and everyone won't like you)
Lesson 3: It's impossible to be EVERYONE'S friend.

Have you ever met someone that is such a people person but they have no clue how to ever say "no". Those people that want to be everyone's friend?

I've had friends like these before and they've entered and exited my life just as quickly. They can be extremely unreliable because they can't say no so they make plans with everyone and can't hold up all of those plans. We have to have balance in life with everything. Too much of anything is not a good thing even if it's a good thing. (That got confusing, didn't it?! HA)

Let's be real. We can genuinely be nice to most people and have various acquaintances but there's no way to be a real friend to several people. There's just not enough time in a day. I've got a good chunk of good friends whom know me well but I also have tons of friends in general. I can't keep in touch with every single person the exact same way. It's just impossible.

Don't worry so much about making other people happy because do they honestly care if you're happy? Think about that when you're going out of your way for them.
And CHOOSE not to care what others think/say about you because EVEN IF they know the truth about you, they'll spread whatever makes a better story.

I've learned tons since my teenage years (I sound like I'm 60 years old) but I have. And being in management, you learn fast that not everyone will like you. You don't want to be disliked but you're there to implement policies/procedures and run a business so at the end of the day, I can't worry about that.

You can't please everyone and if you attempt to, you'll find yourself very unhappy.
Just a little wisdom from my own experiences.




"A friend to all is a friend to no one" - Aristotle


Tuesday, February 14, 2012

IT JUST HAPPENED

Nothing "just happens".

When people get in messes and they say, "It just happened!" - it's a lie. 

For example, when people cheat and say "it just happened"…really. Clearly there were decisions made that led up to the moment of actually cheating. As humans, we like to test ourselves to see what might happen. We know we shouldn't go out with certain people or to certain places because of possibilities of trouble. We know perfectly well what could happen yet our curiosity gets the best of us and BOOM! We've crossed that line that we knew was there but wanted to see if we could stand the test. FAIL.

It's as if we don't want to take responsibility for the mistakes we've made so the only thing that comes out of our mouths is "it just happened." You know what? Take responsibility for your mistakes, own them and move forward. Set the pride aside and admit to your mistakes and basically, be an actual adult.
We all need to face a little humility at times in order to put us back in check.
It's OKAY to make mistakes AS LONG AS we're learning from them. Let's not allow the same mistakes reoccur because then it becomes more of a choice than a mistake, you feel me?

Now this blog isn't about cheating, it's about taking responsibility for our actions. (Cheating is simply the easiest example that I know most can relate to)
So don't get this all twisted. 

We're human beings, we all fail and make mistakes. With that said, I've also learned to stop saying "I'd never do that" because I use to hate tattoos and I have 4 (a 5th on the way), I said I'd never learn Spanish and here I am learning Spanish. My point is a lot of things I said I'd never do, I catch myself doing. Words are extremely powerful so be careful with what you speak on yourself and others.
You could be speaking bad things into your own life or others and not even realize it.

Let's stop blaming others for the choices WE make. 
Even if we were pressured or were influenced, that final decision is OURS not anyone else's.

MAN UP


FAVORITE SONGS - PART 2

1. Beautiful People - Chris Brown

2. Novacane - Frank Ocean

3. Complicated - Rihanna

4. Lloyd - Cupid
5.Without you - David Guetta

6. Parachute - Cheryl Cole

7. Rocketeer - Far East Movement

8. You make me feel - Cobra Starship

9. Just can't get enough - Black Eyed Peas

10. Higher - Taio Cruz

11. Take Care - Drake

12. How to Love - Lil Wayne

13. Rihanna - California King Bed

14. Jar of Hearts - Christina Perri

15. Angels Cry - Mariah Carey

16. International Love - Pitbull

17. Because of you - Ne-yo

18. Rihanna - We found love

19. Just a dream - Nelly

20. Best thing I never had - Beyonce

21. Try sleeping with a broken heart - Alicia Keys

22. If this isn't love - Jennifer Hudson

23. Papers - Usher

24. I changed my mind - Keyshia Cole

25. Impossible - Shontelle

26. Knock you down - Keri Hilson

27. Airplanes - B.o.B.

28. If we ever meet again - Timbaland

29. If I had you - Adam Lambert

30. Mr. Know it all - Kelly Clarkson

FAMILY DOESN'T ALWAYS KNOW BEST

This will be very direct but it comes full of love so just pay close attention.

Family can be the best or worst part of our lives.
Family can enable us for the better or for worse.
Family can help us or hinder us tremendously.

Ideally, a parent would love to have the entire family living on the same block. These days, it's not unheard of that families live in different parts of the world. 
Think about it, each individual has their own dreams/desires and they are not the same as anyone else's. They may be similar to some but that's all. Everyone is their own person and creates their own goals and what they'd like to achieve in their own life.
It's nice to have support from family but if the support isn't there, it's kind of like…well what's the point?

I'm speaking from experience as well as observation.
If we do anything out of guilt or obligation, it isn't real. We don't always "want" to help family, we simply feel as if we're "supposed" to because that's how we were raised or what society thinks. Whether it's family, friends or an acquaintance, anything done out of obligation is pointless (in my opinion). Things done out of obligation/guilt will later result in resentment.

We all love differently.
Some people show their love by buying things.
Some people show their love by spending time.
There are several ways to show love and each person loves differently…as long as we love.

I also know that each person receives love differently.
If I make a photo album for someone and personalize it, that's my way of showing that I care/love for them. But if they feel as if spending time is love then they may not receive my gesture as love.
People will feel how they want to feel and you can't help it.
People can choose to receive whatever BUT it's a choice they make.

No one can tell you how you feel.
Only YOU know.
So if anyone ever tells you, "you don't love me" then let them think what they'd like (since they will regardless) and move on with life.
Life is short and we can't waste time tending to everyone's feelings.
That's a lot of emotions.

I was raised with SO much love and generosity that I want to extend that same gesture to people who have never had that.
I was raised to be very independent therefore I'm extremely content being at the opposite side of the country as my family.
My brother, niece and other relatives live in Wisconsin.
My mom lives in Florida.
I live in Nevada.

I can love them from a distance because my mom instilled an unconditional love in me.
Seeing them once a year is that much better and I'm appreciative when I do get to spend time with them since I rarely get to.

Some people are extremely close with their family and can't imagine going away. Some people love to travel (like myself) and to be "on the go" often so that lifestyle doesn't always mesh with everyone because most people don't like change.

Me? I LOVE change. I LOVE meeting new people. I LOVE different.
Routine is like death to me.

If I stayed put where my family lives, I'd be miserable hence my move to Vegas to follow my passion of the Hotel Industry. So wouldn't it be selfish of them to try and keep me somewhere they know I'm not happy? Or is it selfish of me to not consider their feelings and do what I want to do?

WHO KNOWS?! Life is what you make it!
Do what makes you happy! You can't please everyone whether they're family or not.

Point of this blog?

You always have an "out".
Don't let family hinder you from following your dreams because they want you to stay close to home.
If your family truly loves you, they'll share their concerns but send you off with love.

I suppose I'm different and know what I want.
When I make a decision, I don't think twice because I'm confident in my decisions and make my moves purposefully.

Follow your dreams.
Don't let anyone stop you from what YOU want to accomplish for YOUR life.
Remember, it is YOUR life not anyone else's so be sure that you're making your decisions based off what YOU want.

DREAM BIG

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

FARTING

Crop dusting is absolutely unacceptable.

About two weeks ago I was at a furniture store looking for some bedroom stuff but I got side tracked and was watching the game instead on a couch. This larger woman walks by and I hear a fart slip. Unless you're 80 years old, you should not be surprised by a fart slipping out whilst walking. Really?! 

This was my face as she walked past me and I hear her say "Oooo" and look around...

There are quite a few irritating farting scenarios that I've unfortunately come across. I can't always hide my reaction and if something has disgusted me, I normally don't attempt to hide my facial reactions.

When I'm in the grocery store (which I already hate being in) and then happen to walk into someone's fart, my face looks like this...

My airplane face when I'm trapped in my window seat (I never take aisle seats) and someone beside me either has the worst BO or they've farted during their sleep time. 

 The face I make when babies fart.

Deciding if it's a fart or some kind of gross perfume. That'd be disgusting to make perfume from different farts.

My mall face. I hate walking through malls because there's just too many different smells in general.

 I've just walked into a fart and can't breathe. By far, the worst.

 This fart has clouded my sight and it burns....

Which then angers me...

This is my face when someone was nice enough to walk away during our conversation, fart in the corner then return back to our conversation. Kudos. VERY much appreciated.

Personally, I'd rather hear a fart and have it NOT smell than any other kind of fart.

Of course, this is just me but I'm sure there are plenty of people out there upset that not everyone is aware of fart etiquette.

This is my face after a day of running into no farts.

People, if you're going to fart...simply be considerate of those around you.

JUS' SAYIN'

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

FAVORITE SONGS - PART 1

Thought I'd share some good songs I like to vibe to when I'm gettin' things done round the house.

ENJOY

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MERGING LANES

So I was driving home, on the freeway, and this car in front of me wanted to merge into the next lane and wasn't fully committing. It was half in the lane in front of me and half in the lane beside it. 

On the inside, I was yelling "If you're going to do it, just do it then! And if not, then stay in your lane!"

I realized that life is VERY much like merging lanes. How often do we half commit or stay one foot in and one foot out? 

Then the passengers assist the driver by looking in the next lane to guide the driver and let them know if it's safe to merge. Just like the people in our lives are there to guide us when we're unsure or doubting ourselves. 

People just want to know that they'll be safe hence their hesitation and/or fear.

Relinquishing control is by far one of the hardest things to do. We all want to feel as if we're in control of our very own lives. Having faith and trust in God is probably one of the most difficult things to do as well. I'm not a parent but I could only imagine what it feels like to know that a child is utterly reliant on you just as we should be relying only on God. If we put our trust in ourselves or in man, we WILL be let down. We will fail. God never fails us. We must be obedient in order to hear him. 

I'm getting slightly off track. My point?

Stop living one foot in, one foot out. If you really want to change...then do it. Stop half committing or maybe merging and either stay the way you are OR make the move.

Life can be short or very very long. People who dislike their lives probably feel as if life is so long and almost dreadful just waking up every morning but others who appreciate life and understand it, think that there's not enough time to possibly accomplish all that they'd like.

Are you half committing? 

MERGE.

Either do it or don't but make up your mind.

Tough love.